Thread:Pinkolol16/@comment-34296765-20141202033214/@comment-25653892-20141207224719

That's the whole definition of politeness. You want to try being blunt without getting the other person pissed off at you – otherwise they probably won't listen to you at the very least.

Yes, humankind is heavily flawed. The brain's greatest strengths and weaknesses both stem from extrapolation, and a subsequent need for knowledge with which to extrapolate. Everything you know, whether or not it is true, is just a signal recallable by remembering or experiencing something related. Just as computers' greatest strengths and weaknesses are precisely following instructions, the brain's greatest strengths and weaknesses lie in building upon past experiences and knowledge. This leads to emotionally conflicting stuff and various social constructs, like *shudders* swag. For whatever reason, some people seem to think not knowing how to pull up and button their pants is the coolest thing since canned bread. Others shudder at this stupidity – or what they percieve as stupidity from what they know about stupidity. It's all very complex, but when you ignore the logistics, the fact that you too are human makes it make sense.

A similar construct is being a douche. Words and patterns of words alike carry connotations, both positive and negative, from what we have experienced of them. So if someone heavily criticizes you in a harsh, snarky tone of voice, you'll grow to be offended by such criticism. This pretty much happens with everyone; the criticism and ensuing offense is inherited from other experiences, as well as from emotional interrelations. If, however, you make it clear that you are trying to help, the negative connotation is halfway lost: you remember the criticisms as meaningful, but you feel like the critic is trying to help rather than breaking you down.

tl;dr: Let i=impact; c1=destructive criticism; and c2=constructive criticism. ic2=|ic1| And yes, being human is kinda shitty. You just wouldn't know how shitty because you are human, and haven't connected much shit to your status as such.